quote from Pema Chodron
When We Play with Fire
If this “I” is not relinquished wholly,
Sorrow likewise cannot be avoided.
For if he does not keep away from fire,
A man cannot escape from being burned.
When we play with fire, we cannot escape from being burned. This describes life in the cocoon: the more self-absorbed we are, the more we suffer. But we can’t just snap our fingers and say,“This ‘I’ is just a label; I’m not going to think that way anymore.” Our ego trips are deeply ingrained. They are, in fact, the very means that keep the six realms well oiled and running.
So, how do we get out of this? As Shantideva has said again and again, seeing the sameness of ourselves and others is the key.